Scratching, hitting, biting, pulling hair – all this is part of hardcore sex. In order for both partners to have fun, rules and agreements for hard fucking should be made.
We explain what to look for in rough fucking and what the attraction of hard sex is for many couples. We also present the best positions and practices for horny, wild sex.
What is hard sex?
Hard fucking describes animalistic sex, where you are overwhelmed by the lust and passion of your partner. The partner literally falls over you and lives out his horniness to the fullest.
In rough sex, however, all actions happen under mutual consent – so it is not abuse or rape.
Characteristic for rough sex (which is often called hardcore sex) is that it is fucked hard directly without much foreplay. Petting and cuddling are often left out, instead the man penetrates the woman immediately.
The intense act is characterized by a certain selfishness: it’s all about satisfying one’s own unbridled lust. However, this “I take what I need” mentality gives sexual pleasure to both partners.
Hard BDSM sex
When it comes to extremely hard sex, BDSM elements are often involved: bondage, beatings and many other practices from the BDSM field can be used in hard, horny sex.
The big difference with classic SM sessions is that there doesn’t necessarily have to be a power imbalance during harder sex. Both partners can be equally rough with each other and each focus on satisfying their own lust.
However, the boundaries between vigorous sex and BDSM are not always clear: Some understand horny, hard sex, for example, positions in which they feel strongly at the mercy of the partner. So here there is clearly a submissive part that enjoys the uninhibitedness of the partner. It’s similar with hard S&M sex – the slave is “used” by the dominant part and gets his pleasure from it.
The attraction of hard sex
Why are men and women into hard sex?
For the one who gets fucked through, sexual objectification is likely to play a big role. You get the feeling of being a fuck object completely at the mercy of your partner’s urges during hard and fast sex.
This feeling is appealing for two main reasons:
- As a pleasure object, you are free from responsibility and are not under any obligation to make decisions. You can let yourself go and fully engage in the fuck.
- Objectification is a form of recognition. When your partner does things to you, it’s flattering and provides erotic titillation.
And it’s a very different sex experience when you don’t have to do anything for the other person in the process.
When you’re allowed to fuck your partner really hard without inhibitions, or both of you go wild over each other, the focus is on acting out your urges freely. These take control over the thinking, you become a real animal. If this happens in mutual consent and you can trust the sex partner, a safe framework is also created for more aggressive sex.
Hard sex positions
In which positions can be fucked hard? In principle, all sex positions can be adapted so that you feel more at the mercy of your partner.
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For example, in the missionary position: Instead of just lying on your back, you can spread your legs wide apart and let yourself be held by your arms. This makes you feel more “defenseless”, which increases the intensity when fucking.
In the doggy position, the kneeling person could cross their arms behind their back. The partner can now fuck her hard while holding her wrists. In this hard sex position, the kneeling person is in the submissive role and at the mercy of the partner’s lust.
Hard sex practices
The following practices are typical of hard, wild sex. However, the sensation of pain varies from person to person. It is therefore advisable to agree in advance or try out how far both partners want to go during rough sex.
Pulling the hair
The hair can be grabbed wonderfully if it is tied in a ponytail, for example. A good grip should start near the head, not down at the tips. Hair grabbing comes especially well in the doggy position, so that the head is moved backwards by pulling.
Choking
Choking requires a high degree of sensitivity. You should never press on your partner’s windpipe, as this could cut off his air. Often it is already anturnend to enclose the neck with the hands and to simulate the choking only, without really exerting pressure.
Nibbling
Nibbling can provide pleasurable sensations in several erogenous body zones. For example, on the ears, neck, shoulder, back, nipples, buttocks or the insides of the thighs. You can also nibble in the intimate area – but here you need to be careful not to bite too hard.
Bondage
In this practice for really hard sex, the partner’s freedom of movement is restricted. The arms and legs can be tied to the bed or to a chair.
Scratching
Many find scratching during sex pleasurable. Popular places are the back, upper arms and thighs. Beware – long fingernails can quickly leave painful marks on the skin. Even with wild, hard sex, you should not scratch so hard that it bleeds.
Spanking
A slap on the butt, slaps on the face or slaps on the thighs or intimate area: numerous couples are into spanking during sex. Spanking aids for spanking include cooking spoons or whips in addition to the flat of the hand.
Spitting on
The exchange of saliva can also be integrated into hard sex games. Whether in the face or on the genitals: many people find it horny to spit on each other during sex. Other bodily fluids can also be used to give your partner a wet and happy pleasure – for example, golden shower.
Deepthroating
Hard sex in bed is not only about sexual intercourse. There is also a “hard” version of oral sex called deepthroating. This involves taking the penis entirely down the throat, which can cause a gag reflex in a woman.
Tips for hard sex
In order to properly enjoy rough sex, you should make a few basic arrangements with your sex partner.
It is always good to exchange ideas in advance about the respective fantasies, but also about personal taboos and limits. Hard practices such as hitting during sex can be tried together loosely and then gradually increase the intensity.
It is also advisable to agree on a safeword. If one of the two feels that the sex is too hard, he can signal this to the partner with the code word and thus stop or pause the whole thing.
It can happen that the partner generally has a problem with very hard sex. A common reason is that he is put off by the idea of inflicting pain on the other person. So how do you manage to get fucked hard by him anyway? By making it clear that it is exactly this pain that makes you especially hot. In addition, the safeword agreement can take away the partner’s fear that the extreme fuck will get out of hand.
Women are into hardcore porn
Hard, wild sex can be seen in countless porn movies, of course. Erotic clip portals have their own categories on this topic.
According to the Insights report of the popular porn site Pornhub, it is mainly women who are looking for it. Female users are 75% more likely to watch scenes from the “Hardcore” category than men. Also, the interest in the “Rough Sex” category is 63% higher among women than men, according to the results.
From this, we can conclude that there is probably a secret desire for really hard sex among many ladies. So, dear men: make sure that you realize this fantasy for your sex partner and that she doesn’t have to settle for porn only.
